I have real grief watching our country lose its integrity and soul. As any serious person should — watching democracy crumble, watching the most heartbreaking human rights violations unfold while comfortable people stay silent. Not even a word. Not even acknowledgment of those who are trying.

And honestly it tells me which of my friends would probably have my back in a crisis and which ones would quietly whisper to themselves “well, she brought it on herself” while voyeuristically watching my life unfold without lifting a finger.