The Problem Was Never the Bad Boy: Patriarchy, Partnership, and the Case for a Village
Maybe the problem isn’t that women choose bad boys. Maybe the problem is that patriarchy gives them no room to choose differently—and then blames them when the structure fails. We don’t need better men; we need a better village.
The World is divided by Space Travelers & Time Travelers
There are people who grow by moving through space—traveling, relocating, trying new foods in new countries, drinking local wine or beer, learning new customs, maybe even picking up a language or two.
Then there are people who grow by moving through time. They stay rooted, watching the same streets evolve over decades, carrying the stories of their communities in their bones.
We romanticize one, and dismiss the other—depending on how far away it is. But the truth is, both hold wisdom. Both are necessary.
If all we ever do is wander, we risk becoming untethered.
If all we ever do is stay, we risk becoming closed off.
Together, we offer one another identity and expansion, resilience and rest.
Maybe the most radical thing we can do right now is build bridges between these ways of being.
Radical Empathy in the Comment Section: A Field Guide for Staying Human Online
Radical empathy doesn’t mean letting people walk all over you—it means refusing to let your curiosity die. In a culture obsessed with winning arguments, choosing to listen, ask better questions, and stay emotionally grounded is an act of rebellion. You’re not here to dominate. You’re here to understand—and maybe even be understood.
Saturday Query: Who cares about the why behind good deeds if people are helped?
Saturday Queries: 1. Matthew 6:1 (Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount):
“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.”
Not all Christians: the Danger of Pushing People to Extremes
Not every Christian is a Christian nationalist—and pretending otherwise only fuels the very extremism we fear. In this piece, I share why nuance matters, how mislabeling drives radicalization, and why making space for transformation is more powerful than shame. If we want something better than a culture war, we need to stop flattening people into enemies and start seeing who’s actually trying to walk away from toxic systems.
Is Anti-Intellectualism A National Security Threat ?
In the high-stakes race for global technological dominance, the United States faces an increasingly competitive challenge from China. Yet, at home, anti-intellectualism threatens to undermine America’s ability to lead in fields like AI, quantum computing, and biotechnology. From politicized education policies to attacks on scientific institutions, anti-intellectualism is eroding the very foundations of U.S. innovation. In this post, we explore how this growing trend could jeopardize America’s national security and give China the upper hand in the race for global power.
On Partying “too much” and the Politics of Hanging Out
In this nostalgic and reflective blog post, the author takes us back to the carefree days of late-night beach hangouts, spontaneous karaoke, and the kind of socializing that doesn’t require a “reason” or a price tag. They argue that industrial life has commodified our human need for connection, turning it into networking events and nightlife. But in this piece, the author reclaims the beauty of unstructured joy—gathering just for the sake of being together, free from the pressure of performance. It’s a call to return to those roots of connection, where laughter and play are the true measure of a life well-lived.
We are the Power Plant for the Elite: How the Nuclear Family was designed for inefficency
We weren’t built to do life alone, yet the nuclear family asks us to be everything to everyone behind four walls—with no safety net and no rest. Our modern “freedom” grinds us down like solitary turbines in a system that feeds on isolation. It’s not that we’re failing. It’s that the structure is inhumane.
Not in His Name: What Christian Nationalism Gets Wrong About Christ—And What We Can Do About It
There’s a growing movement in American politics that claims the name of Jesus while rejecting nearly everything he taught. This post contrasts the teachings of Christ with the ideology behind Christian nationalism and Project 2025—and offers nonviolent, truth-based ways to respond without becoming what we oppose.
What Musk’s $200 Billion Really Looks Like (And What It Doesn’t)
Elon Musk’s $200 billion net worth sounds massive—but what does that really look like next to the median American’s $200,000? A rice-based visual puts it in perspective. Learn why median wealth tells a more honest story than the average—and how wealth inequality hides in plain sight.
Help! I am politically homeless
I don’t know where I stand politically anymore. I have two ideologies—one idealistic, one practical—and neither fits neatly into today’s categories. I believe in decentralization, radical empathy, and the right to live outside the binary. But the current climate doesn’t make space for that. Now, even crunchy granola people and divine feminine types are treated like a threat. Is it possible to want equity and nuance, sovereignty and compassion? If that makes me a centrist—or a libertarian—I guess I’ll take the label. I just want my doughnut hole back: a clear, compassionate center.
Why You Need To Start a Cult NOW!
In a time where chaos reigns and truth is stranger than fiction, the opportunity for reinvention has never been clearer. From starting your own cult to launching a disruptive art movement or underground newspaper, history shows that instability breeds innovation. The future is up for grabs—if you dare to take it. Ready to reshape the world? Welcome to Wonderland.
On Women Doing it Their Way, Rockets, and the Right to Wonder
What I saw this week—women rocketing into space—should’ve been a story of progress. A celebration. Instead? The internet served up a tired buffet of mockery. Not of the science. Not of the technology. But of the women. Their hair, their joy, their ambition.
Lauren Sánchez, Katy Perry, Gayle King, Aisha Bowe, Amanda Nguyễn—these women earned their seats. They represent something expansive, something hopeful. But we’ve become allergic to wonder. Addicted to cynicism. And it’s costing us.
Because if we can’t even celebrate a rocket launch without tearing each other down, what can we rise to?
I Saw the End. It Was the Beginning.
I Saw the End. It Was the Beginning.
What if the afterlife isn’t somewhere we go, but something we live—again and again?
During a moment of deep silence in Quaker worship, I received something that felt more like a “wisdom upload” than a vision—a startling, shimmering insight into the nature of time, death, and the soul. It wasn’t about heaven or hell, reward or punishment. It was about cycles. About grace. About doing this whole life thing more than once, not as punishment, but as possibility.
I know how this sounds. And believe me, I didn’t want to write it. But it’s clung to me like truth, and I’m sharing it in case you’ve felt something similar—some glimmer of time folding in on itself, some whisper that love outlasts endings.
This essay is raw, a little metaphysical, and probably too weird for most theology books. But if you’re even a little curious, I hope you’ll read it.
Because maybe, just maybe, we’re all on the same eternal school bus, learning how to get it right—together.
The Menopause Marketing Psyop
Breaking Free From the Marketing Matrix:
Menopause is often framed as a crisis, a medical emergency that demands immediate intervention. But what if we reframe it as a natural transition—an opportunity to embrace new wisdom, freedom, and self-acceptance? By doing so, we can shield ourselves from the fear-driven marketing that profits off insecurity.
As women, we’re often told that menopause needs to be “fixed” with products like HRT, supplements, and treatments, but what if the solution lies in accepting this change instead of fearing it? Discomfort can be part of the process, but it’s not a crisis, and it doesn’t have to be endured in silence or with shame. Every woman’s experience is different, and it’s essential to honor your own unique journey without the pressure to fit a mold or adhere to someone else’s standards.
By sharing our honest stories and questioning the sources of these narratives, we can reclaim our agency and resist being driven by products or narratives that don’t serve us. Let’s stop buying into the marketing machine that profits from our uncertainty and embrace a more authentic, empowered approach to this life transition.
Mary’s Breasts: On Flesh, Faith, and the Terror of Love
The poem Mary’s Breasts by Paula Lippard Justice stirs profound reflections on love, faith, and sacrifice. With visceral imagery and a deep understanding of both the human body and the spiritual journey, the poem invites readers to imagine Mary not as an icon, but as a woman—her body a vessel of both grief and grace. The post explores the mystical duality between Mary and Jesus, shedding light on the generative nature of love, the vulnerability required to fully embrace it, and the powerful spiritual devotion expressed through ritual.
Will The REAL Jesus Please Stand Up?
Was Jesus a revolutionary or a shepherd designed to keep the flock in line? His original message was one of liberation—breaking oppression, resisting empire, and living through love and justice. But as Christianity spread, it transformed. Rome turned faith into a tool of control, and Paul’s rebranding of Jesus made submission more important than action. Today, much of modern Christianity still carries this legacy. If Jesus came to set captives free, then maybe following him means flipping the tables—rejecting systems that use faith as a yoke and returning to acts of love, justice, and resistance.
The Feminist Paradox: A Thought Experiment
Feminism set out to challenge oppressive systems, but has it truly dismantled them—or just secured a better seat at the table? The structures of hierarchy, competition, and transactional power remain intact, and instead of building something new, feminism often works within the same framework it set out to challenge. What if the real path forward isn’t about climbing the ladder but stepping off of it entirely?
We’ve been conditioned to see success through the lens of individual achievement, to measure progress in competition rather than cooperation. But real change won’t come from swapping out the players—it comes from dismantling the game itself. What if feminism, as we know it, is part of a controlled spectrum of debate, reinforcing the very system we claim to resist?
I’m not here to argue; I’m here to think through this with you. If we step outside the paradigm we’ve inherited, where do we go next?
The Power of Conscious Consumerism: Small Choices Big Impact
Conscious consumerism isn't about perfection—it's about intention. While some are diving deep into researching every brand's ethical footprint (think Portlandia-level dedication), the truth is that simply consuming less makes a bigger impact than consuming perfectly. The more accessible a movement, the wider its reach. Real change doesn't happen through dramatic shifts that trigger resistance; it happens quietly, organically, below the radar—like a revolution by whisper rather than shout. And the beautiful part? Once you start making intentional choices about what you buy, that mindfulness naturally spills into every area of your life.
Dear “Nice” Straight Men
Women aren’t leaving relationships because they ‘hate men’—they’re leaving because the constant undercurrent of resentment from certain corners of masculinity is exhausting. If being a ‘good woman’ means being seen as some malfunctioning appliance that needs to be fixed (but never truly loved), why would anyone sign up for that?
So, to the men who don’t think like this—y’all need to manage your boys. Because if this unchecked hostility continues, we’re heading toward a world where love is just another transaction, and you’ll never really know if your wife loves you… or if she’s just legally obligated to.
Maybe it’s time to speak up. Or forever hold your own piece.